This time I will answer a question posed by Fani, one of my readers, who asked me: “How do you know, Tina, if you have healed your emotional wounds? Is it even possible? I read somewhere that some wounds remain as scars and cannot be healed. It is only scabs that keep forming again and again. How do you know that you have healed something completely?”. This is a very good question, so let’s take this step by step.

What is an emotional wound? An emotional wound is an emotional incident or trauma when a person gets hurt (intentionally or unintentionally) and does not know how to ’process’ it. We will discuss at the synchronisation workshop why we are unable to process it and how we can do this. The first wounds were, of course, inflicted in childhood because, as adults, we are only recreating the SAME emotional situations with other people, different faces and hairstyles. Why? Because this subconscious emotional reality (painful point/wound) is the point of attraction and repulsion in the present.

Let me give a specific example: it is like walking around with a broken thumb and not realising it until someone bumps into it or rubs against it. And then we scream: “Ouch, look what you did to me! It’s your fault!” But this person did not break our thumb, they just showed us that it was already broken. In other words: this person did not ‘install’ a painful point inside us, they just helped us become aware of it. If our thumb had been healthy and then someone rubbed against it, it simply would not hurt us, would it?

So, how do we heal such a thumb or emotional wound, as Fani also asked? Is it even possible? Of course it is! But it all depends on OUR attitude to this thumb/wound. If we are constantly picking at the wound, removing the scab and peeping beneath it to see whether it has healed already, we are only irritating it. The wound needs gentle healing and loving care. This means we have to work on ourselves and set the boundaries for others of what is acceptable for us and what not – this is only possible if we know ourselves really well. Let’s see a few of the most effective ways to heal emotional wounds:

1. Work with our inner child: first, we have to understand that our inner child is the one who is hurt. Therefore, we have to listen to it, console it and make it feel safe. I can’t even stress enough how important it is to work with our inner child! Every day during soulwork sessions my clients experience very strong emotional transformations because the love for the inner child underpins the following:

2. Love for oneself: the more we show love, respect and tenderness to OURSELVES, the faster the wound will heal.

3. Understanding for oneself: by accusing, blaming and criticising ourselves, we only make our wound deeper and cause the same pain as was inflicted in the past. We have to give ourselves the benefit of understanding that we were hurt and that it is ok to be sad, angry or resentful – which leads to the next point:

4. Express our emotions through our body: that means we have to stop fighting unpleasant emotions and express them. Unpleasant emotions would like to express themselves the same as pleasant ones. Or, as I prefer to say: “What comes in must go out”. When we hold emotions back and suppress them inside our body, it is as if we were holding our breath. And then we explode at the most inappropriate moment (and on top of that, we feel ashamed)! Metaphorically, we have just picked the scab off and the wound has started bleeding again, while we are re-experiencing the primary trauma from our childhood.

These are but a few of the most effective methods. There are many more, although the topic is too broad for this article.

How do we know if an emotional wound has healed? When there is no longer any concept related to it. When this area becomes completely neutral, as if it has never existed. When something falls off but you don’t even know what and when, and only after a few years you are surprised to notice: "Wow, this xy thing has not happened for a long time!" and at that very same time you forget it even existed in the first place.

Tina Ananda
Transformational Therapist and Clarity Coach
Creator of Emotional Alchemy process
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What others say about Emotional Alchemy process?

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Sonja from Slovenia: "Tina, first a big, big THANK YOU for your help. I have to tell you I feel great, although I still don’t understand how you could do this in such a short time. I hope this does not seem greedy, but there is something else we could take a look at. It's my self-esteem or fear of being evaluated by other people. When I am in company and I feel evaluating looks all over me (especially from people I don’t know, but also from my acquaintances), I can’t even have a cup of coffee because my hands start shaking and sometimes also my head (at least I think it does). Can we do something about this because it is really bothering me?"

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Why Emotional Alchemy process?

Because it works really fast

Emotional Alchemy process brings results in just a few hours, sometimes even minutes. You will be surprised!

Because results are long-lasting

To work with emotional patterns is to peel an onion. The layers removed during Emotional Alchemy process never return.

Because it is extremely efficient

Emotional Alchemy process is one of the most efficient methods of resolving emotional energetics that I have ever experienced firsthand – and I have tried my fair share, believe me! :)

Because it sets us free

Working personally with me you have all the privacy and peace to say what is burdening your heart and finally take a step forward towards freedom and happy life. Yesss! :)

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